Sunday, November 30, 2008

The Gift

In my last post I wrote a little bit about this figurine that Ville gave me for Christmas back in (I think) 1988.

Neither of us had much money in those days, nor were we into expensive gifts. I went to the Camarillo Pic 'n Save and found this piece for $2.89. Given our weird bond with Wolfgang and Nannerl Mozart, this seemed like the perfect gift.

Before Christmas, I went to her house in Oxnard, some 10 miles or so away, to exchange gifts with her. As we stood in her mom's living room, we handed each other our gifts and began opening them. That's when we busted up laughing. We'd gotten each other the same gift. Her mom, who was standing there, said, "Well, I guess we all know where you two shopped!"

This little $2.89 figurine has only increased in value to me over the past 20 years; I wouldn't trade it for the most expensive gift in the world!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

My Christmas Wish List

Throughout the day, Nettl and I have has discussed some of the items on the list I made in my last entry, 101 Gifts for Under $10, and I decided that I'd extract some of the things for my personal wish list. If the rest of my family would like to do the same, please do!

As I look around our home, I realize that most of my prized possessions are little things that cost next-to-nothing, or were handed down. There's the white figurine Ville bought for me at Pic 'n Save for Christmas 20-odd years ago, there's a dancing 18th century couple figurine that Joel got at a second-hand store, and there's the Buddha Micah gave me. There's a pair of hand-painted ceramic heart earrings my step-grandmother made, a silver box, a heart-shaped candle jar, a round, silk embroidered box from China, an wood inlay coaster from Spain, a table scarf from Norway, an old edition of The Lady of the Lake by Walter Scott. Not one of these things cost more than five dollars, and yet, they are the material possessions that I cherish most. So, here is my list:
  1. Christmas tree ornament from Hobby Lobby
  2. Vintage dish, vase, or pair of wine glasses from a thrift store (I LOVE thrift store stuff!)
  3. Old books from the used book store
  4. Picture frames with a meaningful photo
  5. Puzzles
  6. Cozy socks
  7. Coasters
  8. Small figurine from an antique or thrift store (did I mention that I love thrift stores?)
  9. Guitar picks, note pads
  10. Classic oldies CDs
  11. Sealing wax and seal
  12. On-sale gift books
  13. Table scarves
  14. Glass paperweights
  15. Candle holders
  16. Antique miss-matched silverware from a thrift store. Not an entire set, four teaspoons are nice.
Just some ideas! Oh, and I love thrift store stuff and old books...

Friday, November 28, 2008

101 Christmas Gifts under $10

Our family is really excited about our plans for this Christmas: time together playing board and card games, working a jigsaw puzzle, making music and, most importantly, taking the focus off of giving gifts no one can afford. We look at this not only as a way to remember what the holiday is really about, but as our way of making a statement about how empty and materialistic Americans have become. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the stories about Walmart employees who are trampled to death by Black Friday shoppers. Truly, this is the ugly side of American capitalism and I want no part of it. It only proves to me that our decision was a good one to make. This crap has to stop, so here are some suggestions for gifts under $10. Hope it illustrates that showing our loved ones we really care is not about how much money we spend on them, but that we remember them.
  1. Gourmet coffee with a personal coffee cup
  2. A "blank book" and pen
  3. Teacup with a bag of tea samples
  4. Deck of cards and book of card game rules
  5. Homemade cocoa mix in a homey jar (wrap the lid with gingham and tie with a ribbon)
  6. Collage of special photos
  7. Gel pens and stationary
  8. Bottle of sparkling cider
  9. Inexpensive bottle of wine
  10. Home baked bread, include recipe
  11. Basket of deli cheese and fruit
  12. Holiday serving bowl or platter
  13. Christmas tree ornament (paint 2008 on it, something like, 2008 - Friends for 10 years!)
  14. Scented candles
  15. Decorative napkins and napkin rings
  16. Funny bar napkins, swizzle sticks, or shot glasses
  17. Fancy chocolate bars tied with a ribbon
  18. Gardening gloves with a plant, or flower seeds
  19. Hand decorated photo album
  20. Herbal soups tied in lace and ribbon
  21. Makeup tote
  22. Homemade cookie mix with instructions for baking
  23. Special coffee cup filled with candy
  24. Vintage dish, vase, or pair of wine glasses from a favorite thrift store
  25. Vintage costume jewelry from the same thrift store
  26. Gourmet popcorn and flavored oil
  27. Locally made barbecue or steak sauce with basting brush
  28. Pancake or waffle mix and a bottle of real maple syrup
  29. Old book from a used book store. Classics and poetry are especially nice.
  30. Board games
  31. Jar of pure honey with biscuit mix
  32. Note cards
  33. Picture frame with a meaningful photo
  34. Glass jar filled with candy
  35. Muffin mixes with muffin pan
  36. Set of dish towels and dish cloths
  37. Nail polish kit
  38. Pretty night shirt
  39. Basket filled with kitchen gadgets from a dollar store
  40. Video rental gift certificate
  41. Pepper mill and fresh peppercorns
  42. Handwritten copies of your favorite recipes
  43. For the pets, gourmet dog biscuits or cat treats
  44. Small clock or radio
  45. Decorated shoebox for keepsakes
  46. Colorful Post-It notepads
  47. Address book
  48. Puzzles
  49. Sewing supplies
  50. Favorite quote embroidered on a nice handkerchief
  51. Makeup brush set
  52. Cozy socks
  53. Home baked cookies and/or fudge
  54. Sets of special chopsticks
  55. Basket of Christmas cookie cutters
  56. Holiday guest towels
  57. New calendar
  58. Coasters
  59. Incense and holder
  60. Small figurine from an antique store
  61. Aromatherapy essential oils
  62. Emergency cell phone charger
  63. Silly tie for Dad, with the purpose of being silly
  64. Hand cream
  65. Massage oil
  66. Fleece throw
  67. Slippers
  68. For musicians: guitar picks, sheet music, note pads
  69. Something geeky
  70. Tasteful fridge magnets
  71. Sample box of chocolates from a chocolatier
  72. Classic oldies CD
  73. Sealing wax and seal
  74. Pound of roasted cashews
  75. Scarf
  76. Mittens
  77. Sketch book
  78. On-sale gift book
  79. Nature gifts
  80. Bird feeder
  81. Table scarf
  82. House plant
  83. Glass paperweight
  84. Candle holder
  85. Trendy costume jewelry
  86. Decorative padded jewelry box
  87. Bubble bath or bath salts
  88. Small pail of electrical tools and tape
  89. Garage dads always need note pads and shop pencils
  90. Gag gifts
  91. Golf tees
  92. Mustache trimming kit
  93. Travel sewing kit
  94. Money clip
  95. Desktop calendar
  96. A homemade book of "naughty" coupons
  97. A homemade book of coupons for a massage, foot massage, hairbrushing, etc.
  98. Desk supplies
  99. Roll of pretty fabric. Buy remnants and tie with ribbon
  100. Wall decor that's on sale (check places like Hobby Lobby)
  101. Antique miss-matched silverware from a thrift store. Not an entire set, four teaspoons are nice
I know that most of these are traditional Stocking Stuffers, but think about it. Why do we love getting our stocking? Because it's full of small things that were picked out especially for us!

Happy shopping! And remember, there's no need to trample other people in celebration of the birth of the Prince of Peace.

Black Friday, but Not What You Think

Joel was ill all day yesterday and couldn't join us at the table for Thanksgiving. This morning he woke up feeling worse, so Nettl drove him to the ER. As soon as he calls, I'll go get him.

This is twice in the space of three months that he's been so sick; not easy for a mom to handle, regardless of a kid's age. You never stop being a parent, do you? My son's Asperger's Syndrome only exacerbates whatever he comes down with, and I worry.

Despite this, Thanksgiving was nice (everyone missed Joel, though, even the cat) and we all ate too much. After as lean a season as we've had, we felt justified in feasting way.too.much. After dinner, Nettl, Allen, Nettl, Heather and I came upstairs and watched "White Christmas" while fighting off the turkey coma. Later, I couldn't go to sleep and was up until dawn *un-voluntarily*. When I finally dozed off, I was rudely wakenend by the %#@ trash truck with its incessant "beep-beep-beep". After about thirty minutes I was asleep, and remained thus until Nettl woke me to tell me she was taking Joel to the ER.

Plan for the day: Pick up Joel and bring him home, go get a few groceries (no, not food. We need dishwasher detergent, food for Joel, depending on what the doctor says, and probably scrips. Come home, do laundry, and get my blood pressure down.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Happy Thanksgiving!


Sarah Palin very nearly ruined my Thanksgiving, but I refused to give her that much power. Have a great one!

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Another From Stevie Riks

Some of you may remember Bob Dylan's film clip of Subterranean Homesick Blues, from his film, Don't Look Back. It features Dylan with a series of cue cards with select lyrics from the song while, in the background, Allen Ginsberg has an animated conversation with (I think) Bobby Neuwirth. You can see it here. BUT. As much as I love the real thing, baby, and as often as this great video is spoofed, I absolutely adore this version by Stevie Riks, not for his Dylan impression so much as for his impression of the guy in the background. Gee, I wonder who he might be? Enjoy!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Things I've Done - a Meme

I found this meme on Nettl's blog and it looked like fun. No tagging, just italicize or bold the things you've done.

1. Started your own blog (duh)
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyland
8. Climbed a mountain
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang a solo
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Run a Marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise (I spent New Year's Eve 1994 on a party cruise boat in New York City. Does that count?)
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community.
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo's David
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant (I bought a restaurant meal to give to a homeless veteran on my way home from work)
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout cookies
62. Gone whale watching
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Read the entire Bible
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a lawsuit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee
100. Read an entire book in one day
101. Seen more than 5 movies in one day
102. Spent a night in jail
103. Ridden a unicycle
104. Slept on the floor
105. Passed out drunk
106. Cheated a railway company
107. Lied about my age
108. Been South of the Equator
109. Been baptized
110. Been to Japan

Let the Holidays Begin!

We almost have everyone home for Thanksgiving. Lauren came in yesterday afternoon, but Nathan won't be here. Our friend Dr. Scott will be joining us, which is great because we've been inviting him for years. Now, if only our checks would get here so that we can buy the food! It's kind of crazy-making, wondering where mine is, has it been sent, will it get here in time...

Yesterday's bout with a flu bug had me in bed, but I still put in 11 hours for a client. Don't ever think that working at home as your own boss is easy, or that it means fewer hours. There's no calling in sick, and no one to pick up the slack if you're unable to carry your own weight. Billable hours are hours out of your day. But not to complain, I'm thankful to be working at something that I really enjoy. Hell, I'm thankful to be working at all, especially right now when so many people are out of work and will be sitting down to a Thanksgiving table in their homes from which they'll be expelled as soon as the holidays are over. (Isn't it nice of Fannie Mae to give these people a temporary stay of execution... pfeh!)

Anyway, we're doing an old-fashioned Thanksgiving, the kind we remember from our childhoods. No fancy recipes by Tyler Florence, just the standard, memory-inducing fare. I miss the family of my youth for some reason this year, but I keep reminding myself that we've created the family of our children's youth, and that's pretty darned cool. It's just hard to settle in on the fact that Nettl and I are "the folks" now. In my family, "the folks" were my grandparents.

I'm amazed! You know how every Christmas I gripe about the commercials about buying diamonds? I haven't seen one of those this year. In fact, the Buy! Buy! Buy! ads are conspicuous by their absence, and it's really nice. Maybe this season of tightening the belt is what our country needs to get us back to what the holidays are really about. I have seen a couple of commercials with the ridiculous message to buy someone a car, or two. Yeah, right. Not even giving that a second's breath this year.

I'm feeling much better today! Hell, I feel good enough to put in 16 hours!

Monday, November 24, 2008

Why I Love Ventura #1

This is a doorway in Figueroa Street that leads to a humble parking lot behind Main. This entire side of the street is covered by a mural that depicts the history of the city.

In the area that was torn down when the 101 freeway went in, an o-l-d area known as Tortilla Flats, other murals have been painted that include a portrait of Jerry Garcia. During the 1980s, the Grateful Dead were yearly visitors, giving weekend-long concerts at the fairgrounds. These concerts, and the people they drew, gave Ventura a certain bohemian quality that survives today.

See more pictures of Ventura's murals here...

Where Is It?

I'm really antsy for snow. We usually get a little in time for Thanksgiving, but there's none in the forecast this year. Does that mean we'll have a White Christmas? I hope so!

I love snow. Are you getting any snow yet?

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Africa, You Rascal!

Ever since I saw Disney's Third Man on the Mountain at the Saturday afternoon matinee when I was eight years old, I've been fascinated by the Matterhorn. But you know what's really cool? the top "pyramid" is actually a piece of Africa! The mountain was formed by the African and European plates stacking up together, Africa being on top. I know. I'm turning more and more into a real nerd.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

It Takes Time

I can be such a dough-head, and it's always the little things that reveal this side of my personality. Here I sit late at night, web surfing, futzing around online, and drinking wine. I yawn, and I yawn out loud. Not loudly, but just out loud. Then it occurs to me that I CAN yawn out loud. I mean, other people I've been with were like the bitchy lady in that "ListenUp" commercial (watch the ad here). The poor guy is sitting in bed enjoying a TV show and his wife snaps, "Would you turn that down, please!?"

Yeah, I've lived with her.

How can it take me nearly 10 years to realize that not only am I'm loved and that I can be me, but that I CAN be me? That I can freakin' yawn out loud? I think that if Nettl wanted to change me she would have started a long time ago.

When I think about it, that wasn't a yawn, it was just me exhaling.

Saturday Story Time: Aiming For the Stars

It's my father's DNA that gave me my wanderlust, music, absolute pitch, humor, love of solitude, interest in space, curiosity about the paranormal, and my capacity and need for gemülichkeit.

He taught me so much when I was a kid. He was an inventor and he had me building my first crystal radio when I was 9 years old for a science project at school. Always patient, slow, and easy-going, he was fun to learn from, and I swear he knew absolutely everything.

One of the things Dad built after we moved to Solvang was a telescope that looked nearly identical to the one in this picture, except that his was spray painted a matte black. He made it from a cardboard tube, and I remember that its seams were secured with black electrical tape. Everything broken was mended with electrical tape in our house in the years before duct tape was introduced.

One night, Dad took me outside to the corner our house sat on, and set up his telescope. I think I was eight, so being outside on a full moon night was exciting enough, but Dad started showing me things through it, things I'd never seen before: the craters on the moon, Saturn, and the moons of Jupiter. He pointed out the constellations and the Pleiades (which he called The Seven Sisters). He patiently explained what I was looking at, and from that night on my eyes have been turned to the stars. My bedroom was on the front of the house, and I remember looking out my window as I lay in bed in bed trying to fall asleep at night. Sure, he'd whetted my interest and curiosity, but more, he got me looking up and wondering where the hell I was. This ignited other inner questions: "Who am I, where am I, and where, exactly, is 'here'?" Dad was, in a word, my Merlin, my Gandalf. He initiated me into the quest for life's deeper meanings.

My father's love of science pored over into a love for Sci-Fi, and the Saturday nights when he didn't have a gig to play at, I was allowed to stay up with him to watch "Chiller" (a program on an L.A. station that played Sci-Fi and monster movies), eating licorice and drinking root beer, a tradition we continued until I grew up and moved into my own place. We loved The Outer Limits, The Twilight Zone, and One Step Beyond, and we often sat up talking late into the night about the supernatural. But it all began on that corner of Alisal Road and Laurel Avenue. Here's a picture of the corner. When we lived there so many years ago, there was a picket fence and no shrubberies, and the telescope was set up about where the corner of the fence is.


When I was a kid, I thought the Pleiades looked like a champagne glass, and to this day I call it, "Marilyn Monroe's Champagne Glass".

Thursday, November 20, 2008

The Armchair Circumnavigator: Île Amsterdam

Somewhere in me beats the heart of an adventurer. I love circumnavigating the planet using Google Earth. During these explorations I've discovered new (to me) territories, towns, islands, and distant shores. Another part of me is a hermit -- I'd love to visit some of these places for six months or so and just write about them. I mean, what kind of people live thousands of miles away from everywhere else?

Take my newest discovery, Île Amsterdam, a French island in the southern Indian Ocean between Africa and Australia. Make sure to click on the pictures to take full advantage.

Here's the geographical stuff:





The island is volcanic but it has been inactive since 1792. It has an area of 970 square miles, measuring 13 miles on its longest side, and reaching as high as 2,844 feet at the Mont de la Dives. It's part of the French Southern and Antarctic Lands, and together with neighboring Île Saint-Paul (53 miles to the South) forms one of the five districts of the territory. Its only inhabited base, Martin-de-Viviès, formerly called La Roche Gódon, is the capital of the territory.

Île Amsterdam has a mild, oceanic climate, with an average annual temperature of 55°F, rainfall of 43", persistent westerly winds and high humidity. It is home to the Amsterdam Albatross, which breeds only on the Plateau des Tourbières on the island, and other rare creatures, such as the Great Skua, the Antarctic Tern, the Gentoo penguin, the Subantarctic Fur Seal and the Elephant seal. The only existing herd of completely wild cattle also lives on the island.

The island was discovered by the Spanish explorer Juan Sebastián Elcano in 1522 during his first world circumnavigation. He failed to name it, however, which strikes me as kind of strange. A little more than a hundred years later, in 1633, a Dutch captain named Anthonie van Diemen named it Nieuw Amsterdam (Dutch for New Amsterdam) after his ship, also kind of strange.

Even later, in 1792, French captain François Péron was marooned for three years on the island having survived a shipwreck. I wonder what happened to his crew, and if he was there during the last volcanic eruption. He was rescued and taken to Australia in 1795. Peron's Memoires, in which he describes his survival alone on the island, were published in a limited edition and are now an expensive collectors' item. Wish I could read them! In 1924, the islands of Île Amsterdam and Île Saint-Paul were attached to Madagascar and became a French colony.

The first French base was built in 1949, and was originally called Camp Heurtin. The Global Atmosphere Watch still has a meteorological research station there. There are no permanent residents, but from what I have been able to find out, researchers go there for a year at a time to work, and must pass strident psychological tests to be hired.

Ships bring small groups of visitors, as well as supplies, every two months because the only access is by sea. There are a few amenities which make their existence tolerable: a gym, a running track, bicycles, and the occasional game of pétanque, a form of boules. Photography is a popular pastime, and taking long walks across the island has its rewards, particularly when encountering the indigenous wildlife. For reasons of personal safety, no one is permitted to wander off alone or without a VHF radio beyond the limits of the base, as the volcanic terrain can be hazardous. Summer tours range from €4,800 to €6,200. Yikes!

One visitor wrote that the island is really beautiful, and that the cottages are colorful with flowerbeds.








I could look at this for six months, maybe. As long as I had internet access and they have drinkables... Come on. They're French. You know they bring wine!

For other nomadic souls: 37°49'33"S, 77°33'17"E

More info...



I think I'll make this a "regular" feature. It was a lot of fun!

Yellow Wind

I've been paying more attention to this little tree since it began to change colors. It sits just outside the bay windows in which our kitchen table sits. The wind is particularly fierce today, and I like the way it makes the leaves flutter.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Ex Libris

Willow posted a great little book meme this morning that I just have to snag (she said we could... really!) Please feel free to pick up on it if you feel so inclined. It's really pretty simple. Just select 4 books:

1. Fiction
2. Autobiography
3. Non-fiction
4. A fourth book of your choice from any genre

Explain why the books are essential reads in no more than 30 words per book (this part might not be so easy). So here are mine:

Fiction: The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley
I've always loved the Arthurian legends, but this one's special in that it tells the story through the experiences of the women. Exciting heroines and villains!

Autobiography: My Autobiography by Charlie Chaplin
From the droll humor of the title to the profound closing paragraphs, this book has inspired me in more ways than I can list here. Chaplin was a brilliant mind.

Non-fiction: A Literate Passion: The Letters of Anaïs Nin & Henry Miller edited by Gunther Stuhlman
I read this book like some people read the Bible. It has had a place beside my chair since 1994. As much as I love Nin, it's Miller who wins me over with his insight and foresight. Every time.

Book of My Choice: Just for fun, read A Dog's Life by Peter Mayle. Apart from A Year In Provence, this is my favorite of his real-life tales.

There are so many books I could have selected, but today I'm feeling a bit lighthearted, so my favorite warhorses have taken a back seat. Until the next book meme.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Taking the Day Off

While I cannot (indeed, do not want to) take a day off from being a parent, partner, and provider, I've decided that today I'm taking a day off from the following:

Worrying, caring what people think, being the chores cop, knowing it all, playing Gandhi, putting out fires, answering my phone, handling details, multi-tasking, working it out, holding it in, sucking it up, planning ahead, solving problems, being a cheerleader, saying the right thing, being diplomatic, being Super-Everything, putting everyone else first, trying to be a saint, making the bed, remembering past failures, mentally and emotionally flogging myself, and worrying about other people's problems.

Today, I'm staying in my pajamas and taking a rest from all that. If I've learned anything at all in the 57 years that I've been here, it's that these things will always be waiting there until the next day. Sod it!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Depression is Depressing

Man, oh man, are all of my old man's tales of the Great Depression coming around to haunt me! The only consolation is that everyone else is in the same boat, but is that something to be thankful for?

I know why it's called a "depression". You work your ass off and there's nothing there to show for it; the money is swallowed up before it even gets a chance to draw its first breath, and juggling basic expenses is becoming a rare art form. One is not allowed a simple sense of accomplishment when the paycheck is deposited in the bank, because it's already spent.

The secret of course is to keep smiling, because nothing lasts forever. Things will begin to improve somewhere down the line, and once again I must tell myself, "Things will be different next year!" But what about right now? What do you do when the bills are piling up and the pantry is getting emptier and emptier between trips to the supermarket? What's more important, food or heat? People shouldn't have to make choices like that, not when there are people carrying jewel-encrusted cell phones and dressing their little dogs in "Pawda". I'm seriously beginning to understand the reasoning behind the French Revolution.

In 1983 I was so broke that my mom's church left a bag of groceries on my front porch -- everything Joel and I needed to have a simple Thanksgiving dinner. That gesture meant so much to me that through the years I've done the same thing for people I knew were hurting--not for Thanksgiving so much, but when they needed a little help just to survive. I think gestures like that are important, and I intend to carry on with random acts of financial kindness when I can afford to do so. Not this year though. This year, charity starts at home.

And still the TV commercials try to assure us that the upcoming holidays will be "business as usual". I'm not buying it. In fact, I'm not buying anything. Instead, our family has agreed to make the holidays fun and full of togetherness. Time spent in music and laughter is free, and who says you have to have a feast to enjoy a meal together? Unusual, cheap little gifts from Dollar General will be remembered long after Nettl and I are gone, more so than electronics, gift cards, or transient fashions. If we can give our family anything this year, it's more love. And there's nothing depressing about that.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Saturday Story Time: I Was a Lady of the Canyon, Reincarnated

The only reason I'm re-posting this entry from last August in an new incarnation is because I just finished a great book, Laurel Canyon: The Inside Story of Rock and Roll's Legendary Neighborhood, by Michael Walker. Not only has it filled in a few gaps, it has brought some memories to the surface that I thought were long forgotten. Also, I've gotten some new readers who might find this tale interesting. Hope so, anyway. It was an interesting time, not only in my life and not only in LA, but in Rock history.

Instead of putting up the earlier post and then my updates as an addendum, I'll work the new points in to make a cohesive whole. Sorry, some of you will have to read it again to get the new stuff... I promise I won't do it again. I don't like repeating myself that much.

I spent a large part of 1971 in an exclusive commune in the Hollywood Hills, in a mansion that was owned by Peter Tork of the Monkees.

This is a uniquely famous house in Rock and Roll history. It had been rented by Stephen Stills and was where Crosby Stills, Nash & Young rehearsed for their performance at Woodstock. In fact, there were two rooms off of the pool that had been converted into a rehearsal/recording studio. By the time I lived there the recording equipment had been removed and it was being used as bedrooms.

The house was originally built for band director Carmen Dragon (father of "Captain" Daryl Dragon of the Captain & Tennille), and was later bought by actor Wally Cox. Peter Tork then bought it from him. During my stint there, I met some of Rock's greatest legends, for good or ill.

Stephen Stills, Neil Young, Greg Reeves, Dallas
Taylor and Graham Nash rehearsing in the
driveway and pissing off the neighbors.
Funny how this picture brings back so many memories in a truly visceral way. I can tell you what room every window opens into. I remember the scent of the jasmine and honeysuckle and how the bougainvillea cascaded from the bower bridge that led from the main house to the two-storey pool house, with a cabana below and a guest room above.
"CSNY rehearsed for this, their second official live performance...at Shady Oak, a house nestled in the hills on the Valley side of the canyon. Formerly owned by Wally Cox, it was purchased by Peter Tork at the height of his Monkees fame. Tork's tenure there was already legendary for marathon parties and the abundance of young women in states of undress in more or less permanent residence around the swimming pool. When Tork blew through his Monkees money, he rented the house to his old folkie pal Stephen Stills, whereupon the jam sessions in the downstairs music room and the Möbius strip of parties-cum-hangouts continued unabated.

"Stills added a special touch by rehearsing Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young, complete with screaming amplifiers and pounding drums, on the patio. "One day Stephen says: 'It's a beautiful afternoon--I want to hear how this sounds in the outdoors. Let's just set up all the instruments outdoors and play for a while," says Nash. "And we did." When Crosby questioned the wisdom of openly provoking the neighbors, Stills accused him of betraying his freak-flag allegiance... It was typical of the band's heated infighting, in which one member would hurl another's lyrics at him as evidence of mendacity or the dreaded "cop-out." Dallas Taylor, the band's drummer, recalled one evening at Shady Oak "sitting there, taking a long hit off of one of Crosby's killer joints, vaguely aware that an argument was going on around me: 'Fuck you!' 'No, fuck
you!' 'That's a cop-out, man!'" The next thing Taylor knew, Stills had escorted him downstairs to the music room to jam with Jimi Hendrix and Buddy Miles. The refreshments, according to Taylor, included a large mound of cocaine sitting on a mirror on the Hammond organ." (Copyright © 2006 Michael Walker)
When I moved in the house was being rented by sci-fi screenwriter Rick Strauss and his wife Simone, who was a fashion designer with Patty Woodard. Neither Rick nor Simone were really famous, but they made enough to pay $1600 in rent in the day when my apartment in Santa Barbara, an exclusive resort beach town known for its high rents, cost me $125. It's about like paying $16,000 today. Rick also wrote for the L.A. Free Press and was known as an eccentric cross between an aging hipster and a guru.

One thing I remember is that there was a huge hole in the bar, like someone had kicked it in. I've always been curious about how it got there. Someone told me it was made by Jim Morrison during a drunken binge. Hell, it could have been anybody. I thought it was a shame because the house was so beautiful, and otherwise serene. That gaping hole somehow shattered that serenity for me. There were some pictures on the web of Jimi Hendrix and George Harrison by the pool, but I can't find them now.

I stayed for a short while with my manager, Jeff Levin, in a wing over the garage known as the Carriage House. It had a full view of the drive and patio below with Austrian crystals hanging on invisible fishing line in the windows, casting rainbow prisms onto the purple wall that the head of the bed sat against. Later, I discovered a door behind a mass of clothes in an upstairs closet that opened into an attic room that no one but Rick and Simone knew about. I immediately moved in there and made myself a private loft that looked out over the entire pool area. I hung the walls with Indian bedspreads and wrote music to my heart's content; even Jeff didn't know where I was, and no one could find me; I could work uninterrupted.

Opening for the Doobies.
We had a maid who came in once a week, but we were expected to pull our own weight. Bill Kaminski, a tall, good looking blond who worked at the Olde Worlde restaurant on the Strip did the cooking, Cathy Williams, who became my friend, cleaned the Strauss's rooms upstairs while also acting as the nanny of their baby, Jonathan. Jeff, as I said, was a kind of overseer and I took care of the kitchen and shopping. Diane Christy, a leggy dancer at The Whisky, and who was a friend and protégée of actress Stella Stevens (and who seemed oh, so glamorous to me), did a lot of sunbathing, and Jessie and two other guys did work that pertained to the concerts that we held at Venice Beach and Griffith Park. That's me performing for 1500 people, warming up for the soon-to-be-renamed Doobie Brothers. In those days they were known as Pud. Lovely...

Because it was less than two years after the Manson murders, L.A. was still paranoid about anything that looked like a hippie commune. Suddenly, hippies weren't just harmless, peace-loving sideshow freaks, and in the canyons of Hollywood and Studio City, little signs began sprouting up on lawns proclaiming that the properties were protected by electronic security systems and very large dogs. Rick had dubbed our group, which was actually an event production collective, The Shady Oak Family. Understandably, the word 'family' in this context made some people a bit skittish. We were always reassuring people in radio and television appearances, and in the newspapers, that we were safe, working, and nothing like the Manson family.

To this end, the police were frequent guests, but not in the way you might think. They respected Rick because our events were well-known for being incident-free. The police chief shared bagels and lox with us on more than one occasion, laughing with us at the kitchen table and, amazingly, treating us with a curious camaraderie (maybe it was the half-naked girls). He paid no attention to the pot and he knew that Rick never allowed anything harder in the house. (Someone brought in some angel dust one night, but I never saw anything harder than that, and it was only once.) The L.A. Times published a huge spread on us one Sunday, and when I get back to California, I intend to hunt it up in the library archives.

I became aware of this house/commune while visiting Jessie, a musician friend who lived in an apartment complex in the San Fernando Valley. I don't remember how I met him; I think I gave him a ride when he was hitching through Santa Barbara. Or maybe it was at the Agoura Renaissance Pleasure Faire, where I worked as a Tarot reader. I just don't remember. That was a lot of joints years ago. The apartment complex was a sort of commune, too. As many were in those days, the units were rented by like-minded Hollywood Hippies who met for meals in one apartment that served as the mess hall. This particular complex was owned by Rick and Simone.

One evening after dinner we all congregated in the living room of one of the apartments to drink wine, jam on guitars and rap (that was the term for talking, not a musical style). Jeff happened to be visiting that evening and he kept talking about "the house on the hill", but I didn't know what he was referring to, I just continued to pass the dutchie to the left-hand side between songs. After hearing me sing, however, he mentioned that I should make my way up there sometime. Thinking it was a come-on, I let it pass.

A month or so later, when I was staying at my brother and sister-in-law's place in the Santa Ynez Valley and warding off the Chumash dudes at the bar where my brother's biker blues band played every night, I received a phone call from Jessie who said that he'd been "moved up to the house on the hill" and that I should come down immediately. There were big breaks for me there, he said. Being all bout my career, I went. Standing in a phone booth at the foot of the the Laurel Canyon freeway exit in Studio City, I told Jesse where I was and he said that they'd be down to get me in a few minutes.

He and Jeff arrived in a red 1968 Ford Mustang convertible and I, my backpack, and 12-string guitar climbed in. Driving up the canyon and even higher up on the curvy 1/4 mile driveway to the house, I felt like I was about to see all my dreams of fame come true (this picture is of the entrance of the driveway). When I actually saw the house I about flipped. It was a bona fide Hollywood pad, with a glorious view of the Valley below. I met Rick and Simone at dinner, which we ate seated on the red-carpeted living room floor around a large, circular coffee table with a jug of Almaden. (I remember that, not liking wine, I asked for a glass of milk... what a baby. Hey, I was only 19!) Afterward, it was my obligation to sing for everyone and I happily obliged.

Later that evening, Jeff came to where I sat with Jesse in the music studio and said that Rick wanted to see me. He led me through the large, curved living room into the foyer and up the Norma Desmond worthy circular staircase to a library on the second floor. I knocked on the door and he told me to come in. Rick, who looked a bit like Albert Einstein, sat behind an antique desk with a deck of Tarot cards before him, and invited me to sit down. As he shuffled and dealt the cards he casually asked, "What do you want?" I misunderstood, thinking that Jesse hadn't been cleared to invite me up to "the house on the hill".
"Well, Jessie invited me to spend the weekend," I said, the shy creature that I was in those days.
"No," he interrupted. "What do you want?"
"Nothing. I just came here--"
"No," he laughed. "WHAT - DO - YOU - WANT?"
"I want to be a star," I said, understanding. "I want to be huge. A standard of comparison."
Looking at the cards he'd laid out, he nodded in thought and said, "I can do that for you. See this card? This is the Fool. That's you. You're the star I've been looking for. All these other people are just court jesters, but you're the real thing."

He went on to tell me that he wanted to make me the new generation's Mary Pickford, but I had no idea what he meant by that at the time. He asked if I could stay and be groomed for stardom. What else did I have to do? I said yes and the work began. He gave me a hippie stage name, which I hated, and instructed me to come to him with every new song I wrote. His wife began designing stage clothes for me, Renaissance troubadour sort of a mime look without the white-face makeup.

Soon, I was performing at the Venice Beach and Griffith Park Love-In concerts, on TV and radio, at showcases, and warming up for acts like Leon Russell and the Doobie Brothers (here's my entry about that). And whenever I had an engagement he made sure that a limo came up the hill to get me. I was considered for the female host on The New Zoo Review (link goes to a YouTube clip), but Emily Penden, one of the show's creators (and the wife of the male host) got it. It happens. Between you and me, I'm glad that gig's not on my resume.

Unfortunately, the Strauss's went bankrupt very quickly and when they moved to a smaller house in Studio City that was also owned by Peter Tork, they took only Jeff and me with them. Everyone else had to move on. Disillusioned within the month, I left too, although I still took gigs that Jeff got me for a while. You can read about my last gig and the fight I had with him here.

So that's my tale of my time in Laurel Canyon. I wrote a lot of good songs in that fabulous house; the musical vibes there were incredible! Oddly, if money were no object I'd probably buy it (despite the fact that it's in L.A.), not for the memories, but because it was so full of musical energy, and for the history as well.

The Rolling Stones by the pool at Shady Oak.
Yep, sat there naked a few times myself.
Mick Taylor, Keith Richards &
Mick Jagger 
in the solarium.
David Crosby takes a plunge into the pool.
Can't tell you how many times I sunbathed on that
board with Diane. Ah, the smell of Ban de Soliel!
The Stones lounging in the hammock that I used, too. 
Mick & Keith by the pool, just outside the studio.
(I used this house, and the guest cottage in the

background, in Book One of my Rock trilogy.)
Rick Strauss was not your typical commune patriarch. Sure, he taught us lessons about life (he was 60 years old and knew more than we did), and he used the popular spiritual texts of the era, the Bhagavad-Gita, the Upanishads, the Tao te Ching, the Teachings of the Buddha, Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda, etc., but he saw himself mostly as a mentor, taking in talented young people and preparing them for fame and life beyond that fame.
"You live up here on Mount Olympus. You eat what you want, drink what you want, ingest what you want, dress how you want, make love to whom you want. You are gods and goddesses and you will treat each other as such. But if you want to be treated the same way when you descend into the material world, you must continue to act like gods and goddesses. You are ambassadors for a new age. Conduct yourselves accordingly."
I've never forgotten that. Did any of us get famous? No, but wouldn't all this look good in the movie!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

I Can't Relax

Every time I walk past the patio door I peek outside and sigh. In the summer I can at least force myself to relax by going outside, piling into my hammock and turning on my MP3 player. At this time of year, when the weather gets colder and colder, there's no place where I can put myself in relax mode.

The living room sofa? No. Here in the bedroom? No. There's just no place quite like my hammock on the patio that's conducive to relaxation.

So instead of relaxing I work, and work, and work, and work.

Last evening, while dinner was cooking, I forced myself just to sit and watch the news. I was miserable doing nothing. I even poured a glass of wine, but it didn't help. Before I knew it I was firing up the computer again to check out some code I wrote for the site on which I'm currently working.

And right now, I need to work every hour that I possibly can to get us past this financial mine field we're going through.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Top 10 Best Literary Insults

Sometimes my brain and my creativity go on vacation (especially when I've worked 18 hours of a 24-hour period of time), and regardless of how much I claim the Blogging Without Obligation creed, I still put myself through a certain amount of angst in the morning when I click onto my blog to see yesterday's post glaring at me.

I refuse to write a post about not having something to write about, so today you get a great list that I found at Alternative Reel some time ago. It's a cop out, but that's what you get today -- at least until I've had a pot of coffee.

#10 - GORE VIDAL ON TRUMAN CAPOTE
"He's a full-fledged housewife from Kansas with all the prejudices."

#09 - TRUMAN CAPOTE ON JACK KEROUAC
"That's not writing, that's typing."

#08 - ERNEST HEMINGWAY VS. WILLIAM FAULKNER
Faulkner: "[Hemingway] has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary."
Hemingway: "Poor Faulkner. Does he really think big emotions come from big words?"

#07 - EDMUND WILSON ON CARL SANDBURG
"The cruelest thing that has happened to Lincoln since he was shot by Booth was to fall into the hands of Carl Sandburg."

#06 - RALPH WALDO EMERSON ON JANE AUSTEN
"Miss Austen's novels . . . seem to me vulgar in tone, sterile in artistic invention, imprisoned in the wretched conventions of English society, without genius, wit, or knowledge of the world. Never was life so pinched and narrow. The one problem in the mind of the writer . . . is marriageableness."

#05 - VIRGINIA WOOLF ON ULYSSES
"[Ulysses is] the work of a queasy undergraduate scratching his pimples."

#04 - D. H. LAWRENCE ON JAMES JOYCE
"My God, what a clumsy olla putrida James Joyce is! Nothing but old fags and cabbage stumps of quotations from the Bible and the rest, stewed in the juice of deliberate, journalistic dirty-mindedness—what old and hard-worked staleness, masquerading as the all-new!"

#03 - ELIZABETH BISHOP ON THE CATCHER IN THE RYE
"I HATED the Salinger story. It took me days to go through it, gingerly, a page at a time, and blushing with embarrassment for him every ridiculous sentence of the way. How can they let him do it?"

#02 - CHARLES DARWIN ON SHAKESPEARE
"I have tried lately to read Shakespeare, and found it so intolerably dull that it nauseated me."

#01 - GORE VIDAL VS. WILLIAM F. BUCKLEY
Vidal: "As far as I am concerned, the only crypto Nazi I can think of is yourself."
Buckley: “Now listen, you queer, stop calling me a crypto-Nazi or I’ll sock you in you goddamn face and you’ll stay plastered.”
—Democratic National Convention, 1968

Monday, November 10, 2008

This is the Future

I was just checking my Facebook account and found some pictures from a Halloween party that our Lauren attended. Lauren is at Oklahoma University, in the "reddest state" in the country.

I came across this picture and once again, for the umpteenth time this week, I was moved to tears. This is the future, folks. As we grow older and our time here ends, we leave the world to these young people with the bright and excited faces. People to whom race already means little.

Again, I'm filled with hope.

Scarborough Fair

To be sung to the tune of "Ring Around the Rosy":

Scarborough dropped the F-Bomb! Scarborough dropped the F-Bomb!

I'm busting up. Just remember, when Olbermann, Maddow, Stewart and Colbert are making their jokes, you heard about it here first.

After profuse apologies, Joe said, "I'm not worrying about losing my job, I'm worried about going home to my wife."

(Hope you heard it too, Earl.)



No More Qs!

Have you noticed that Blogger's captchas have started to resemble real words lately? Over the weekend I got some that read, "sesses", "tribil", "laterst", "uniting", and "parries", as well as a lot of others, and not one of them sported a "Q" or the usual mind-pretzeling crap. As someone with dyslexia, I'm really, really greatful. Thanks, Blogger!

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Happy Birthday!

Today is the birthday of the younger of my two sons, Micah. I couldn't be prouder of him. He's a brilliant mind, a phenomenal composer and guitarist, and a steadfast, deeply spiritual, generous, and compassionate man who has a wicked sense of humor that has never failed to delight me.

He's had a tough year, with the death of both his grandfather and his father, but still, he found the courage and passion to compose, record, produce, and market his CD, Temple of Unmanifest Dreams. He constantly amazes me with his creativity, and dedication to his art.

I didn't get to raise Micah past the age of two and-a-half, so getting to know him these past years has been a complete joy to me. We seem to share an unspoken understanding, and we think alike in ways that are uncanny. Sometimes, it's like we can read each other's minds even when we're not in the same room. When we are in the same room, or pass each other here at home, there's sometimes no reason to speak. We know. We understand.

Micah, this being a lean year, I can't afford to give you the material gifts that you deserve, but I have an unending supply of love and devotion, as well as an inexhaustible amount of faith in you.

Micah in 1987 at Lucy-in-the-Sky'sParty on, Dude!


Micah's blog

Saturday, November 8, 2008

A Saturday Meme

Willow was tagged with a meme last week that I snagged, thinking it would be an easy Saturday write. From what I gather, all I have to do is write something about myself in regard to certain subjects. Because tagging you guys has become a tricky thing, feel free to snag this yourself, if you feel so inclined.


Clothes Shop

I'm not a clothes person. I don't like shopping, and now that I've gotten older, I couldn't care less about fashion. If I have to buy something for myself, I like going to Ross or consignment stores, where I can find "hippy dippy" things. If I had my way, I'd have a closet full of kurta sets from India. I also like Levi 501s and rugby shirts. When I have to dress for a concert, or the opera, or a nice dinner, I like basic concert black: black slacks, shirt, and jacket.

Furniture Shop
Yeah, I could spend some money on furniture if I had it. I don't like showroom suites though, I prefer miss-matched reproductions, usually in the late 18th century/Empire style. I like classy funk, and Shabby Chic just makes me want to get out the paint cans. In our powder room is a lovely little Hooker washstand that pretty much sums up my style. Just throw in an antique lamp with a fringed shade and some antique chotchkies and that's me.

Sweet
Food-wise, I've never been into sweets, so I'll apply the word elsewhere. I love sweet-natured people for their gentleness compassion. Unfortunately, these are the very people who so often get trampled, used and abused. When I meet a truly sweet person (not obsequious or superficially cloying), my protective instincts flare and my usual easy-going nature changes.

City
One half of me envisions living the city life in some metropolitan center like Vienna, Toronto, Denver, or New York City, and the other half craves a few acres in the country, a cabin in the mountains, or a seaside cottage. One life is not enough, nor is it long enough. If I were faced with having to make a snap decision, however, I'd choose an apartment in Vienna.

Drink
I used to love recreational drinking. Actually, I still do, but I can't do it like I used to due to my health. Sitting in a room drinking wine with friends is one of life's great joys, but I fear my days of that are over. Once in a while I can let go a little, but I pay for it later. Still, I can make two or three glasses stretch like nobody's business.

Music
I could write all day about music because I'm a musician. I can't say that I like all styles of music, but I can appreciate the best of any of them. I tend to like artists more than styles though, and I have no patience for people who issue broad statements like, "I hate Country music". One time back in the 80s, someone said to me, "I hate opera!" to which I replied, "Really? How many operas have you seen?" Their reply was, as I predicted, none. When I took them them to see Mozart's Le Nozze di Figaro, they absolutely loved it. I detest musical bigotry; like with food, I'm open to try anything so that I can develop my tastes. I have to add though, that music isn't only something I listen to, enjoy, or create. It is at the foundation of my being and that without it, as the saying goes, life would be a mistake.

TV
I never used to watch television (I didn't even have one for years), but then my health took a turn and I wasn't able to be busy doing things all day. Since then, I've grown to accept the machine a little better and I have certain stations I enjoy, like PBS, the Travel Channel, the Food Network, and HGTV (although I like the last one a lot less since it has become more like the Real Estate and Slip-Shod, Cheesy Decorating Channel). I'd love the History Channel, but there's very little history on it in favor of trucks, machines and Hitler. I listen to music when I work sometimes, but it distracts me (I'm a composer and my brain starts "working" when music is on), so TV is better background noise for me.

Film
I've never really been into movies; I only see those that really grab my attention, and those are mostly period films. Theaters are too expensive, so I enjoy watching movies at home. I like indy and foreign films, and those that are artsy-fartsy or off-the-wall. But, as in music, I don't like weird for the sake of weird. Don't try to impress me with your "genius", impress me with your subject matter.

Coffee
I love coffee, but I'm not into all the flavors and trendy crap. Give me Folgers, medium strong, with one healthy sugar in it. Don bother me with the yuppie routine.

Friday, November 7, 2008

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Pictures From Our House

Nettl checks the web for updates while Micah mugs in the background

"O for Obama!"

We hear of Obama's victory!
Micah pops a cork while Nettl weeps


Micah, Nettl & Heather

Yours Truly steps in

Listening to Obama's speech

Me & my Stooge pants

Not as stirring as those taken in Chicago,
but we had a wonderful time!


Photo not taken: All of us dancing to "Signed, Sealed, Delivered". Damn.