"Because I love you and because I love myself, I will live gently with you and myself.
I will remember that heart-centered loving is an ongoing process graced by committment, mutuality and respect.
I will honour, express and heal your feelings, as I know you will mine.
Because you are my beloved, I will share my body, mind and heart in ways that encourage the exchange of healing and nurturing energy between us.
I will listen with my heart.
When I speak, I will be heartful, and not hurtful.
I will be nice, kind and appreciative, and I will allow laughter to pour forth from me with ease, and to permeate our relationship."
(These were the vows we wrote for our Holy Union service on May 25, 2001)